When it comes to life, few pains can compare to that of loss of a loved one.  The physical loss of a partner, spouse and lover can feel as though the life force in you left with them.  As a Medium and Spiritualist, i help those in in the living to feel connected.  Through readings, signs and other communication, Spirit shows up time and again to help us remember.  These communications prove that there is life beyond the living experience.

Spirit serves as a wonderful teacher to me, as well as my clients.  Many offer great wisdom, and it is echoed throughout many sessions.  The common denominator is always love.  And, i thought that I would share with you some of these lessons today.  These are the gifts from the Spirit side of life to help those in the living.  Certain anchors in the calendar flood many with memories and unresolved pain.  It is my hope that these words will help to bring you peace.

1.  Forgiveness

Sometimes, with the loss of a loved one, words are left unsaid.  Or perhaps, some were said that did not have the opportunity to be taken back.  Spirit comes forward to offer love.  They share with me how much love they have and of fond memories.  They do not come full of anger or regret.  Even partners from divorced relationships share admiration and a fondness for the "good times".  They share with me that some of the guilt felt is misplaced.  That there is no need to feel guilty.  They only want their living loved ones to feel their love.

2. There is no need for goodbye

Lack of closure can be tremendously painful for those who have lost someone that they love.  Many times, especially with Cancer illnesses, the passing is missed.  This may be the first time you left to shower or eat in days. It may be the five minutes that you left the room to make a phone call.  Spirit has shared with me that they chose that opportunity to make their human exit.  It is their way of trying to shift the focus away from the good bye.  The crossing from human to Spirit is not a final parting.

3.  "I am with you!"

So many times, Spirit has shared their ways of connecting with you.  For some it is moving keys or jewellery around the house.  Others may visit in dreams or come to the corner of your eye.  Sometimes they may even flicker a light, play with the time on your microwave or turn on a tv.  You may smell their tobacco or perfume.  You may just feel their presence.  Spirit will use their energy to get your attention.  They ask that you trust your instincts.

4.  It is okay to move on

When someone is missing their partner in Spirit, sometimes the last thing they are thinking about is inviting someone new into their life.  However, time and again, Spirit's message is to do exactly that.  And there have been many times that Spirit has played match maker from the other side.  We humans are a romantic lot.  We believe in happily ever after.  And we believe in finding our one true love.  What Spirit has shared is that it is okay to allow love to strike more than once.  Their desire is for your happiness, first and foremost.  They do not want their humans to be lonely and sad.

5.  Live life and be happy

Too often, I am told by Spirit that they have left this lifetime sooner than they would have liked.  And they feel that they had more life to live.  The goal for sharing this is not for anyone to feel sad, but rather that they enjoy their own life.  Spirit encourages us to be present and live every moment to the fullest.  We are to stand in possibility and play.  Of course, we will miss the physical and human connection once our loved ones cross over.  However, they stand on the other side of the veil, taking pleasure in our happiness.

And so, it is time to live and welcome love into our lives.  The love from your loved one does not die with their body.  It is eternal.