As we move into a world that encourages higher frequencies and intuitive abilities for all, we are bound to see telepathy and other ways of communication to increase. As a teacher and mentor of intuition and mediumship, I certainly have fun with my students in our play of developing these skills further. However, one of the conversations that we have time and time again is how to tell the difference between that of the higher self from the ego.

The vibration of the higher self interacts with the divine (whatever that means for you) and can access information from universal consciousness. This energy is loving, even when it comes with warning. It moves us forward on our path and in our relationships. The ego on the other hand, being that of a very dense energy, is the closest to the human experience and the 3D world. The view is quite limited and by design, keeps us stuck and often in negative thought processes. One of the questions that I am often asked, or assumptions made based on my intuitive profession, is that the people in my life do not need to update me or tell me things because I “already know”. Another challenge that I see come up for my coaching clients is that of assuming what others are thinking and allowing that to influence their reaction within the relationship. Mindreading is not intuition…mindreading is not the same as telepathy. In fact, there are dangers associated with mindreading and they very much are motivated by the ego over the higher self.

During the process of telepathy or intuition, there is an agreement or energetic contract that is created, honouring both parties, the highest and best for all involved and the ability to open of close the doors of communication according to their desired outcome or comfort level. There have been examples of twins, siblings, good friends and parent-child relationships and many more where telepathy is practiced. Many people sharing their experiences of unspoken communication, especially since the lockdowns that began in spring 2020. These skills are developed and can be strengthened with practice and in some cases mentorship or training. As more and more people learn to navigate the world without physical contact, our souls crave to keep the connection alive through means of dream space, intuition (which we all have) and unspoken cues. By limiting exposure to energy that lowers our frequency such as the media, gossip, anger and wifi and increasing what elevates our energy such as nature, singing, being present and mediation, our unconscious mind shifts our programing to access this higher consciousness.

There are also those that practise mind reading, an do so without even realizing that their ego is in the driver’s seat. Let’s be real for a moment…we all do this at some time or another. It is a self defense mechanism that presents as a way of protection, but in reality, makes assumptions about how another is thinking or feeling, and what their motivations are. We see this often in children and as adults, we are quick to recognize and ask the questions like “how do you know that Suzy does not like you” to shift them to another perspective. However, that same programming often shows up in adults in times of fear or in a relationship where things do not make sense. In the practice of mind reading, the story that is created allows one party to be a victim and the other to be the aggressor. It allows a negative spin to restrict the truth from being seen. It is that sight that can only come from the ground, limiting and obstructed. Much different from that of the higher self, which carries us up to a greater vantage point and offers possibilities and options to explore. The negative implications of mind-reading and other meta models (generalizations, deletions and distortions) lead toward negative self-talk, breakdowns in communication and relationships, struggles with career and isolation.

As much as mind reading is a reaction, it is also a behaviour that can be recognized and shifted. We can, at any age, begin to recognize how we react and explore what other option might be in our better interest. Just as we can learn to trust our intuition, we can also learn to raise our frequency and shift from limiting behaviours to ones that promote cohesiveness, kindness and possibility. The rewards of raising your vibration are endless and you will feel it physically, emotionally and cognitively, and you will see the results in relationships of all kinds within your life!

It all begins with recognizing our current practices. When upset or frustrated, consider what you do with that energy. Perhaps you go for a run, or eat a lot of chocolate cake, become quiet or angry and loud. Without judgement, explore these patterns, and know that you may react differently depending on the relationship or situation. Once you have a fair idea of how things have been going, these guiding questions can help you to elevate your vibration and begin a new program of reaction.

1. Am I acting from my heart space or somewhere else? Now if you are not used to this language, you could re-frame it to Am I being loving or something else. This helps us to understand what we are bringing to the table and also very quickly we will see if we are in ego mode.

2. If I were an observer on the sidelines, what would I notice? Objective perspective is gold! Rather than placing judgement in the mind of others, we can simply observe actions and what we know to be true rather than what we perceive to be true.

3. How am I benefiting right now from this judgement? Remember that our ego has a goal, and it is often the lower form of self-preservation. Think of the ego as an over-protective helicopter mama…this interpretation of protection is limiting and actually prevents healthy interactions with the world and others. It also prevents natural consequences, which help us to shift our programming and behaviours to more helpful ones in the future. We always have a payoff for what we do, it just is not always a positive one.

4. I wonder what they could be thinking and feeling instead of this story that I am telling myself? When we remember that possibilities are endless, we can remove ourselves from the emotion and allow for space to create a different outcome than what we are constructing.

5. What if it has nothing to do with me? And, it probably has nothing to do with you! During this human experience, we see ourselves as pretty darn significant. However, the reality is that each story created is egocentric and every behaviour is either in support of or in reaction to what happens to ourselves when coming from the lower vibration of self. When we remember that an action or reaction is about them, we can then move into compassion from judgement.

6. How am I seeing myself being expressed through their actions or reactions? When we mind read others, we feel triggered or compelled to do so because there is something within ourselves that we recognize and want to project in order to not explore where it is really coming from or feel manufactured guilt or other unpleasant emotions. When we can look at others as though we are looking into a mirror, we can then shift our own energy, which in turn leaves the energy of others no option but to shift also.

7. How could the message that I think I am interpreting change if I were to show myself love first? This could be through taking 3 deep cleansing breaths, having a good belly laugh, naming ten things that I am grateful for or walking in nature. It is possible that our interpretation would be kinder and gentler if we showed ourselves love first.

Having this human experience is an interesting exploration. Although we are contained in this physical form for a while, it really is all about the energy and allowing it to transform to its highest elevation. In these times of change and with so many experiencing fear, it is “easy” to fall into ego…but what if it is actually easier to lift into love and understanding?