That brings us back to what created witch hunts, and missions to disempower women in the first place.  FEAR!  Fear comes from what we do not understand and/or what we can not control.

Let’s fast forward to another perspective.  Since a child, I have been connecting with Spirit.  I give readings to people, messages from their loved ones that have crossed over.  Babies in Spirit have not been excluded from these messages.  I cannot even begin to tell you how many times I have had an unborn baby come through to ease the guilt and pain of his or her parents in a reading.  I cannot even begin to tell you how many times I have said “you have 3 children” …” No, I only have two.” And Spirit continues to insist and shares that there was either a miscarriage or an abortion.  Those Spirit babes stay in our Soul circles.  The messages, not once, have been in anger, resentment or fear.  The only thing that comes through is love, compassion, acknowledgement.

I have another grandmother.  One who chose to stay home with her children and grandchildren.  She told me the week before she died that “all babies are a blessing and should be celebrated.”  She also asked me to be good to myself and have adventures.  Both of my grandmothers were strong women who lived very different lives.  Both of my grandmothers expressed joy and excitement for the options and rights that women in my generation were offered. I believe our grandmothers and the women before them sacrificed so much so that we could have choices and options.

Here is my two cents…which of course, you can take or leave…let’s raise strong and loving boys and girls, who grow to be compassionate, responsible and respectful adults.  Rather than taking rights away, let’s teach and educate, and make resources available so that some options will never need to be explored…and if they do, it is in a supportive, safe way that promotes healing and growth. Allow women to make decisions that are in the best interest of women.  Allow men to make decisions that are in the best interest of men.  Allow men and women to come together to teach and explore what is best for everyone.  Allow men to teach their fellow men about consent and respect and see those qualities as manly. We do not need to erase the work of hundreds of women, if something needs changed, explore how to make it better, not take it away.  It is time to take the power of fear away from those in power and replace it with understanding.  This debate is not bringing men and women closer together.  It is creating a greater divide.  I wonder, whose best interest is that???

Here are some things that we can do to become more enlightened…

  • Watch “Dirty Dancing” and listen to other stories that will help you to understand what brought the legalization of abortion and other topics forward in the first place.  Even though this story is fictional, it is based on societal truths.
  • Talk to some women who have had unplanned pregnancy, not from the position of judgement or to prove something, but in open exploration. What supports did they have?  Who helped them make the decision that was best for them?  Did they feel empowered?  What could have been done differently to make the process easier for them?  What would they have done differently, if anything?
  • Teach young people about their bodies, without shame. Teach them about consent, about respect, about the differences between making love and having sex.
  • Explore the platforms of people that are creating the decisions where you live and around you. What interest or motive do they have in passing particular legislation?
  • Turn off the drama. And if you want to keep it on…explore how to replace the fear and lack of understanding with knowledge and compassion.

I love you.  You are a blessing.  We are all here learning lessons and doing the best that we can.  Lessons are much easier to learn when we see the whole picture.